在传统的刻板印象里,男人就要有“男人样”:从不展示自己脆弱和敏感的一面,困难的时候也坚持拒绝寻求帮助;一代又一代的男孩从小被教育“男子汉不能哭”……但是这样的“男子气概”真的正确吗?其实,男人、女人,都是血肉丰满的“人”,柔弱不是女性的代名词,刚毅也不为男性所特有。美国演员Justin Baldoni的这场TED演讲《为什么我不再试图变得“男人一点”》(Why I’m done trying to be "man enough" )生动且犀利,从一名“直男”的角度,呼吁男性从内心深处审视自己,重新定义什么是“力量、勇敢、坚强”。
演讲精选:
“Are you brave enough to be vulnerable? To reach out to another man when you need help? To dive headfirst into your shame?”
“你们有没有勇气去变得脆弱?当你们需要帮助时,就去向他人寻求帮助?去直面内心的羞耻感?”
“Are you strong enough to be sensitive, to cry whether you are hurting or you're happy, even if it makes you look weak?”
“你们够不够强大去变得敏感?无论你们是痛苦还是快乐,想哭就哭?即使这让你们看起来很脆弱?”
“Are you confident enough to listen to the women in your life? To hear their ideas and their solutions? To hold their anguish and actually believe them, even if what they're saying is against you?”
“你们够不够自信,去倾听周围的女性?去倾听她们的想法和解决办法?去理解她们的痛苦,并真正相信她们,即使她们在说反对你的话?”
“And will you be man enough to stand up to other men when you hear ‘locker room talk,’ when you hear stories of sexual harassment? When you hear your boys talking about grabbing ass or getting her drunk, will you actually stand up and do something so that one day we don't have to live in a world where a woman has to risk everything and come forward to say the words ‘me too? ’”
“你们够不够男人,当你听到‘更衣室谈话’,听到性骚扰的事时,你能站出来反对他们?当你听到男生们讨论吃她豆腐或把她灌醉时,你会站出来做些什么?这样有一天,我们就不会生活在一个女性要不惜一切站出来说‘我也是’的世界了。”
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